You’ve set your date and shared the news with your closest family and friends. The first thing you do is start looking at venues, but you’ve made the mistake of bringing your four best friends, Grandmother, Mother, Aunt, soon-to-be Mother-in-Law and her sister along. Opinions start bouncing around, and no one can seem to come to an agreement on what venue is best.
You know the saying, “Too many cooks in the kitchen”?! Well, the same goes for your wedding vendor appointments. The only people who should be a part of the vendor selection process are: 1) The Engaged Couple, and 2) Whomever is assisting in paying for the wedding. Any more than that will only increase the odds of your mind becoming cluttered with various opinions, making it difficult for you to come to a final decision.
No matter how hard you try though, sometimes you just can’t prevent this from happening. So, here are a few helpful tips that should do the trick!
1) After your engagement, get started on creating a mood or Pinterest board. This will allow you to have a good sense of what you want your BIG day to be like. It will also be a great tool to turn to when others begin sharing their unsolicited opinions. Having a firm understanding of what your Wedding Day wants are is super important, and a vision board will show others that you’ve got it under control.
2) Book appointments with vendors quietly. No one, except those involved, need to be informed of this process. Once vendors are finalized, feel free to share the awesome news with your friends and family. Until then, keep it to yourself – I promise it’ll be less stressful!
3) Acknowledge everyone’s opinion and respond politely with, “Interesting choice – thank you! We’ll look into it and keep you posted.” Short, simple and to the point. You’ve made them aware that you heard and value their opinion. However, you’re not making any wedding vendor promises.
4) Don’t say, “Yes” or “That’s an amazing idea!” to anyone. Chances are they’ll expect to see their suggestions come to life on your Wedding Day, and if/when they don’t, hurt or upset feelings may occur as a result. Let’s keep everyone smiling!
The above are a few tips to help you stay firm in your Wedding Day decisions, while still being courteous to those who are equally as excited about your special day as you are!